The interruption of wedding receptions, as a result of COVID-19’s attack, has been quite a tragedy for some of those affected.
The interruption of wedding receptions, as a result of COVID-19’s attack, has been quite a tragedy for some of those affected. The event cannot be celebrated at the planned scale. A dream of many years’ making is suddenly dimmed. We can imagine how upset a mother must feel, having to restrict greatly the invitees to an only daughter’s wedding.
I would have thought that the disruption would not be highly distressing for a mere invitee. The lament of one such, that I heard about recently, surprised me. This lady (call her Gigi) was said to have been hugely distressed about a friend’s daughter’s wedding now being restricted to fewer guests than planned. Gigi was not among the invitees axed, but she was upset about the size of the expected show being diminished. And why? My informant guessed that the cause of upset was probably mostly the reduced size of the expected audience for Gigi’s own display. In other words, at fewer potential admirers for her outfit.
Other people’s weddings are serious business for many attendees, maybe most. And it revolves around how one should present oneself at the event. Each guest is probably preoccupied with appearing gorgeous, to the extent that none of them really has eyes for others’ adornments and beautifications. There are of course the polite comments exchanged about each other’s get up, but these are hardly ever satisfying. The receivers of admiration probably guess that that the gushing acclaim is no more sincere than what they too dish out. Critical comments are probably more honest – though rarely shared with the individual concerned.
It may be worthwhile checking whether this uncharitable interpretation is to any extent correct. Do we have to doll ourselves up mostly for fear of snide observations? And are there one or two persons who are specially skilled at spotting flaws, and bringing it to others’ attention? Since I do not, as a rule, attend weddings – or funerals, for that matter – I am not able to judge, first hand. But I’d like somehow to start a trend of looking down upon those who look down upon the standard of others’ dress and make up.